04 May A Balanced Equation
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her– Proverb 31:28
As a mom emerging your normal life with raising kids is often strenuous and can take you off balance. It becomes a bit complex when you have about three or four or more little ones. Your daily routine takes a new form, somewhat hectic. This change applies to both stay-at-home moms and working moms.
Gradually you begin to pay less attention to yourself, career, husband, goals, friend, housekeeping, including God. This is because 80% of your attention becomes centred on the well-being of your kids. You become obligated to prepare their meals, bathe and dress them, wash their clothes, assist in their school works, put their rooms in order, go see a movie, and lots more. For most moms the list is endless and we don’t get to finish all the lists in a day. Hence, the next we pick up from where we stopped the previous day.
It’s your God-given assignment as a parent to groom your kids towards the right standard of living according to God’s requirements. Just as Proverbs 22:6 advised; Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. However, in the process of raising kids, we disarranged lots of digits making our life equation unbalanced with lots of errors. This needs to be fixed to avoid further harm.
A balanced equation is all it takes to have a worthwhile motherhood experience. This calls for your commitment to time management. You must understand how vital your relationship with God is and how His help is greatly needed to be an amazing mom. When you seek God’s wisdom and direction it becomes difficult to give in to the pressure of grooming children. Preferably, fellowship together with your kids. A perfect avenue of drawing them closer to God.
Do you need your husband’s assistance? If yes, the easiest route to achieve this is becoming cognizant of his needs. When you do this, you can confidently ask for his support as a father to your kids. Instead of using flimsy excuses to push him aside, try the soft explanatory method. This method creates a conducive atmosphere of telling him how two hands are better than one in grooming kids.
Furthermore, you need to pay close attention to the way you look. Let your outward appearance look neat and presentable. This doesn’t mean you overdo your make-up and wear costly attires. In essence, let your modernization be known to all. In addition, don’t bury your goals and career in motherhood. You can still achieve it, although not all at the same time. It’s understandable to take a break off those things if you’re still a breastfeeding mom. However, the moment your kids are enrolled in a school. Revive your career.
A wise saying goes; cleanliness is next to godliness. What does your home look like? Is it well arranged or things are left haphazard? Be dedicated to beautifying your home. This includes the interior and exterior areas of your home.
The desire of every mother is to be appreciated by her husband, children, and those around just as the proverb 31 of women (Proverbs 31:28). Hence, to have a balanced equation, start by observing how things have changed. Therefore, there are certain activities you would need to engage in once or twice a week to balance your equation. Whereas there are others you need to do once a month. So, the choice is up to you.
Perhaps, your kids are still very much little, it’s profitable you get a trusted person to assist you if the workload is much on you. But if they are a bit older, you should enrol them in a school. Besides, don’t let the syndrome of motherhood tie you down, which is hesitation at doing things. Break out and be up and doing. This implies the utilization of your time between the hour your kids leave for school and their arrival. Use such time for other important activities of life.
Subsequently, there are lots of ways your husband could help. This includes dropping the kids off at school before he goes to work, shopping for a thing or two from the mall while returning home, engaging the kids while you make dinner, see the kids off to bed, and lots more. Ensure you ask politely.
You may as well take them over to visit a trusted relative for the weekend or some days, So you have time for yourself and other things. It’s necessary to create a daily slot to fellowship with God. If need be, do that with your kids, at least an hour from your time to God wouldn’t cause you much.
Be reminded; children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.–Psalm 127:3
Happiness Hassan is obsessed with godly lifestyle and loves sharing her faith with other women unashamedly.