Abigail in 1 Samuel 25: 1-44, is a woman whose story has been told from different angles. Some have focused on her story as a woman who took David the psalmist after she managed her harsh and evil Nabal. Some have focused on Abigail as the woman of beautiful apearances. Some have spoken about her as proverbs 31 woman personified. What struck me was Abigail, a woman of good understanding.

Understanding is wisdom applied. When the servant told Abigail that David had send messengers to meet their master but he reviled him yet the men had been good to them in the fields. Abigail made a quick decision to go and see David and did not tell her husband. Proverbs 4:7 states” Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” Wisdom is the ability to judge, to discern what is true or lasting. Abigail after hearing from the servant was able to judge that despite her husband refusing to give them bread, his water and meat she took the bread, meat and sheep to them because they had helped their servants in the wilderness. Abigail was able to convince David from killing everyone because she discerned. Abigail is described as a woman of good understanding. Wisdom gives you the ability to choose the right path but understanding gives you the ability to be successful. Are you a woman of good understanding?

Do you have an eye that sees opportunities or problems?
Abigail was married to a husband who was harsh and evil in his doings. Abigail could have seen trouble with her husband and the husband being an evil man she could have magnified the danger she was going to endure for working with the unknown. Her Husband had asked “Who is David, and who is the son of Jesse?”
Abigail saw an opportunity after she had been told that actually David and His men had been good to the shepherds in the fields. Abigail could have been threatened by the fact that her husband was evil and also that David was planning to harm Nabal and the entire household. Abigail was a woman of good understanding she listened to the good report about David and acted immediately.

Abigail did not only save the entire household she also got a husband after Nabal had passed on. Are you a woman who magnifies problems that you hardly see opportunities in life?
A great communicator will win the heart of kings.
Abigail was a good communicator / Negotiator. She negotiated her way through to David. She won David’s heart by her wise words. David said to Abigail” Blessed is the Lord God of Israel who send you to this day to meet me. And blessed is your advice and blessed are you, because you have kept me this day from coming to blood shed and from avenging with my own hands.” Abigail managed to convince David by her wise words that David told her that he had heeded to her voice and respected her as a person. How you communicate your thoughts to others determines whether they respect you or not. How you put across your opinions determines whether you will be heard or not. Abigail also knew when to talk and when not to talk. There are times when silence is the best answer. 1 Samuel 25: 36” Now Abigail went to Nabal and there he was, holding a feast in his house like a feast of a King. And Nabal’s heart was merry within him for he was very drunk therefore she told him nothing, little or much until morning light. Are you a person who wants to talk at all cost? When you communicate a matter it is as important as how you communicate a matter. A woman of good understanding discerns when and how to discuss matters of importance in life.

Tafadzwa Mazibuko

Tafadzwa Mazibuko is an inspirational author, speaker, contributing writer. She is a founder of Tafadzwa Mazibuko and associates. She has written three books ‘The dream that was worth fighting for!, The Dream!, and The King’s dream for His daughter! and a Dreamer’s Daily Planner. Dreamer’s Daily planner is a personal development tool published annually. Tafadzwa has featured on Television, One Gospel channel on shows: Your playlist with Carly Fields, Revelations, Soul Sessions, Christmas Sessions, Feed your soul. She has featured on radio programs: SA FM with Kanye Magubane, Rainbow FM with Pastor George, Praise 102.5 and Pheli FM with Solly. She has also been featured in the move, Hallelujah and Growth women’s business networks magazines. She is a contributing writer of the magazine Growth Women’s business network. She has been awarded a certificate of excellence by CWENA and long list best non- fiction by SABA book awards 2020.

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She looked at me with teary eyes as she narrated what had happened the previous night.” I looked outside of the window, it was all dark and I could only see scattered stars in the sky. My face was swollen I dreaded to look in the mirror again. My husband who is supposed to be my hero but in reality was a monster to me had left for the lounge. I did not bother to worry myself  about what he was doing.

Questions ran through my mind: What happened to the love we used to share? Where did we lose our connection? How did we get to this point, where my husband uses violence to force submission out of me? I was afraid. Afraid to face the future. Afraid to lose myself. Afraid to lose my identity. Which Identity? I used to know who I was but now with all the name calling I have gone through in this marriage and emotional abuse I don’t know what to believe. My husband is a leader at church, and no one will believe what he does behind closed doors. No one will believe how angry he is when he is at home.” She gazed at the night sky as if to search for answers.

March is a month when women celebrate international women’s month. As women are celebrated for their achievements and impact in the society, some women are still in bondage. Wondering who they are and how they can find themselves. Physical and emotional abuse happens to both the guilty and the innocent. I recall listening to a woman of God, a preacher of the word who had finally left her marriage of many years because she could not take the emotional abuse any longer. She said” I tolerated a lot of things because I was afraid of what society would say but I could not breathe. I could not stay for the children any longer.” I state in my book ‘The King’s dream for His daughter!’ “Being a woman is a beautiful thing. When you know who you are and what God thinks of you, you graduate from being a victim of people and circumstances. Beauty comes from within, and that beauty is what makes women attractive.”

It is easy to be trapped in one’s fears and self -pity if you have been exposed to abuse but if you know whose daughter you are, you reject words that do not agree with what your father in heaven says you are despite who they are coming from.

For you formed my inward parts: You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You. When I was made in the secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance being yet unformed. And in Your book, they were written. The days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them. How precious Your thoughts are to me Oh God!” – Psalm 139: 13-17 

Who do you say you are? Who does God say you are? Knowing it is not enough, you need to believe it and live it.

Tafadzwa Mazibuko

Tafadzwa Mazibuko is an inspirational author, speaker, contributing writer. She is a founder of Tafadzwa Mazibuko and associates. She has written three books ‘The dream that was worth fighting for!, The Dream!, and The King’s dream for His daughter! and a Dreamer’s Daily Planner. Dreamer’s Daily planner is a personal development tool published annually. Tafadzwa has featured on Television, One Gospel channel on shows: Your playlist with Carly Fields, Revelations, Soul Sessions, Christmas Sessions, Feed your soul. She has featured on radio programs: SA FM with Kanye Magubane, Rainbow FM with Pastor George, Praise 102.5 and Pheli FM with Solly. She has also been featured in the move, Hallelujah and Growth women’s business networks magazines. She is a contributing writer of the magazine Growth Women’s business network. She has been awarded a certificate of excellence by CWENA and long list best non- fiction by SABA book awards 2020.

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