I have a confession to make: I never used to think of myself as an anxious person. Maybe because of my upbringing, where the unspoken rule was to “grin and bear it.” Anxiety always seemed like something other people struggled with, a sign of weakness or a lack of faith. Admitting to feelings of unease, let alone full-blown anxiety, was simply not an option.

But life has a way of reshaping our perspectives, doesn’t it? The past couple of years have brought challenges I never anticipated, and for the first time, I found myself battling something I couldn’t just push through with sheer determination. It wasn’t just the occasional moment of worry – it was the kind of anxiety that grips you in the middle of the night, tightening in your chest, stealing your breath, and whispering worst-case scenarios into your mind. It was gut-wrenching, peace-stealing, joy-draining fear.

Suddenly, my old way of coping – just “being brave” – felt woefully inadequate. I realised how ill-equipped I was to handle the weight of stress and uncertainty that had settled over me. And as much as I wanted to deny it, I had to admit the truth: I was struggling with anxiety.

You are Not Alone

Maybe you can relate. Maybe you, too, have felt like anxiety has slowly taken up more space in your life, making it harder to breathe, harder to think clearly, harder to feel joy. If so, I want you to know this: you are not alone. Anxiety is something many of us face, often in silence, believing we have to handle it all on our own. But the truth is, we don’t. Anxiety is real, but so is hope. There is help and healing available – we just have to be willing to reach for it.

I would like to share some of what I’ve learned about facing anxiety, finding peace, and learning to let go of the things that feel too heavy to carry alone.

Understanding Anxiety

Anxiety is an emotion; therefore, it is not a sin. But like any other emotion, it can lead us to sin in how we choose to cope with it – lashing out at those around us, seeking comfort in unhealthy habits, or neglecting our responsibilities. The question is, where do we go with our anxiety? Jesus warns us about letting the “cares of this life” weigh us down (Luke 21:34). The cares of life are inevitable but being trapped by anxiety doesn’t have to be.

Biblical Encouragement: Be Anxious for Nothing

For the last couple of years, I’ve intentionally focused on what the Lord has to say about anxiety, worry, and fear. Scripture has a lot to say about it! Take Luke 12: 22, 25-26 ESV:

And he said to his disciples, “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life… And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? If then you are not able to do as small a thing as that, why are you anxious about the rest?

Or Matthew 6:34 ESV:
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Or 1 Peter 5:7 ESV:
Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.

But perhaps the most impactful passage for me has been Philippians 4:4-8 ESV, where Paul outlines how to find peace through prayer and thanksgiving. This passage inspired an acronym I’ve found helpful: C.A.L.M. – Celebrate, Ask, Leave, Meditate (adapted from Max Lucado’s God Will Help You). This framework offers a practical way to shift from anxiety to peace.

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

There are four admonitions in these verses that lead to a delightful promise, “the peace of God which surpasses all understanding”.

C.A.L.M.: A Framework for Facing Anxiety

1. Celebrate

“Rejoice in the Lord”, which is to celebrate who He is and what He has done in our lives. We do not ignore our current struggles, but we simply remind ourselves of the Lord’s past blessings to us, bringing them to remembrance. James 1:17 highlights that all good things originate with God, urging us to see and appreciate His role in our blessings. Psalm 78:4 ESV declares:

We will not hide them from their children,
but tell to the coming generation
the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might,
and the wonders that he has done.

Celebrate His goodness and faithfulness for these traits remain unchanging no matter what we are going through. Gratitude shifts our focus from fear to trust. Keeping a gratitude journal can help us see His blessings more clearly.

2. Ask

Ask God for His help: “let your requests be made known to God” because He is near to the broken-hearted (Psalm 34:18). Verse five of Philippians 4 emphasizes God’s close presence and willingness to be near to those who seek Him. Psalm 145:18-19 ESV affirms,

The Lord is near to all who call on him,
to all who call on him in truth.
He fulfills the desire of those who fear him;
he also hears their cry and saves them.

The Lord’s prayer teaches us to ask our Father in heaven for our daily bread (Matthew 6:11) for He already knows what we need (Matthew 6:8). Asking for His help reminds us that we don’t have to carry our burdens alone.

3. Leave

Leave your concerns with God. Be honest with God about your anxieties – do not belittle them, no matter how trivial they may seem. The Psalms encourage us to be completely open with the Lord about our feelings. Psalm 13 ESV is one of my favourites, where David cries out:

How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I take counsel in my soul
and have sorrow in my heart all the day?
But I have trusted in your steadfast love;
my heart shall rejoice in your salvation.

4. Meditate

What we dwell on shapes our perspective. Meditate on good things: “think about these things” (verse 8). We can choose to fixate on fear or on what is true, honourable, and praiseworthy. I have a propensity for seeing problems in every promise, dismissing the positive, downplaying good news. It masquerades as “pragmatism” in my life but, if I am honest, most of the time, it isn’t truth that I fixate on. Yet Paul admonishes us to meditate on truth. And what is truer than the Word of God? Memorizing Scriptures about fear and anxiety – like Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 23:4, and Psalm 118:3 – can help us anchor our thoughts in God’s truth.

Final Thoughts

We would hope that, as Christians, we wouldn’t have to worry, that our lives would be free from anxiety. But they are not. In fact, for some of us, we have needed to also seek healing through therapy and medication, and there is no shame in that. However, with God’s ever-present help in His Word (Psalm 46:1), we can overcome the grip of anxiety. For we know for sure that God’s plan for our lives is not for us to lead a life of unending anxiety (2 Timothy 1:7) because He loves us.

Whether you’re struggling with occasional worry or deep, persistent anxiety, my hope is that you’ll find something here that reminds you: you are not alone, and you are stronger than you think because God is by your side, every step of the way.

If this post resonated with you, take a moment to reflect on how you’ve been handling anxiety. What truths from Scripture encourage you the most? I’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share in the comments or pass this along to someone who might need it today.

Marthe Badibanga

A volunteer blogger whose passion is to see the people of God become all that the LORD intended them to be in their personal relationships with Him that overflow into their daily lives.

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by Marthe Badibanga

Life can be overwhelming, even for those of us who try to keep everything together. At some point, we all face moments when the weight of our responsibilities, emotions, or circumstances becomes too much to carry on our own. Whether it’s the daily grind that wears us down or significant life events like the breakdown of a marriage or a serious illness, it can feel like there’s no end in sight. During these times, finding refreshment feels impossible. Yet, as believers, we have a constant source of rest and peace in Jesus Christ, our Shepherd.

Jesus, Our Rest in the Storm

When Jesus says in John 10:11, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep,” (ESV) He’s telling us something deeply profound. He is the One who protects us, guides us, and nurtures us—often in ways we don’t even recognize until we’re out of the storm. Unlike any worldly source of comfort or temporary escape, Jesus knows exactly what our hearts need, and He offers lasting refreshment that goes beyond just physical rest.

This truth became more real to me than ever during one of the most difficult seasons of my life: a combination of divorce and a serious illness, which left me unable to keep my employment. For years, I had prided myself on being able to handle anything life threw at me. But when my marriage unravelled quite dramatically and I was diagnosed with a debilitating illness at the same time, I felt crushed. The emotional pain of a failing relationship, coupled with the physical toll of the illness, left me feeling like I was drowning in chaos.

The Shepherd Leads Us to Still Waters

Psalm 23 is one of the most well-known and loved passages in the Bible, and for good reason. It speaks to the way Jesus, our Shepherd, leads us through the darkest valleys and brings us to places of peace and refreshment. Psalm 23:1-2 says, “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters.” (ESV)

This picture of the Shepherd leading us to green pastures and still waters isn’t just poetic imagery—it’s a promise. During that difficult season, I felt anything but rested. It seemed like my mind was constantly racing, my heart was heavy with grief, and my body was weary from the strain of illness. But Jesus kept reminding me to come to Him for rest. He would gently pull me back to His Word, where I found verses like Ps 23:4: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me” (ESV). Or Isaiah 40:31: “But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” (ESV)

Even when I couldn’t see a way out of the storm, I knew that I was in the hands of the Good Shepherd. Jesus didn’t promise to take away the pain instantly or cure the illness overnight, but He did promise to walk with me through it. And in those moments when I was intentional about spending time in prayer and in His Word, I experienced a kind of peace that surpassed all understanding (Philippians 4:7). He was the still waters in my storm.

Finding Peace in Chaos

Going through a divorce is like watching the foundation of your life crumble. Everything you thought was stable and permanent suddenly feels fragile and uncertain. When you add an illness into the mix, it’s easy to feel like you’re trapped in an inescapable storm. During those long nights when the pain—both emotional and physical—kept me awake, I found myself crying out to God in desperation. It was hard to believe that peace was possible, but in those darkest moments, I began to see Jesus as my Shepherd in a new way.

Instead of trying to control the uncontrollable, I began to learn how to surrender. In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus invites us: “Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (ESV)

This verse took on new meaning as I realized that Jesus wasn’t asking me to pretend I was okay or to push through in my own strength. He was inviting me to let Him carry the burden with me, to rest in His care, and to find refreshment in His presence. It didn’t happen all at once, but slowly, as I gave my pain, my fears, and my uncertainties over to Him, I started to feel lighter.

There were still tough days—moments when the divorce felt too painful to bear and the illness too draining to fight—but I began to lean on Jesus in those times instead of trying to power through on my own. The more I trusted Him as my Shepherd, the more I experienced His peace. I came to understand that real refreshment isn’t about escaping our circumstances, but about finding rest in the middle of them, knowing we are safe in His care.

Finding Daily Refreshment in Jesus

The refreshment that Jesus offers isn’t a one-time fix. Just like sheep need constant care from their shepherd, we need to continually come back to Jesus for daily renewal. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle of life and forget to rest in His presence, but Jesus is always inviting us to come to Him.

One way I’ve learned to do this is by ending my day with quiet time in God’s Word and in prayer. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes, I simply sit in silence, asking the Holy Spirit to speak to my heart. Other times, I pour out my worries and fears to God and ask for His peace. Every time, I’m reminded of Jesus’ promise in John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” (ESV)

Even in the midst of life’s storms, we can find true refreshment in Jesus. He doesn’t promise a life without hardship, but He does promise to walk with us, guide us, and bring us to places of peace. When we trust Him as our Shepherd, we find rest for our souls that the world cannot offer. As we navigate these tumultuous waters together—leaning on Scripture and each other—let us remember that we are never alone. Our Shepherd walks beside us every step of the way, leading us toward still waters where our souls can be restored.

The Shepherd’s Refreshment Is Always Available

If you’re feeling weary today—whether from the daily stresses of life or from a more significant storm like I faced—know that Jesus, your Shepherd, is ready to lead you to still waters. His invitation stands: Come to Him, find rest in His presence, and let Him refresh your soul. When we place our burdens in His hands, we discover that He is more than enough to carry us through, bringing us peace even in the most chaotic seasons of life.

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I have a love for writing, dedicated to sharing inspiring words to uplift others and I have a drive to make a difference. I long to see fellow Christians become all that God wants them to be. – Marthe Badibanga

Marthe Badibanga

A volunteer blogger whose passion is to see the people of God become all that the LORD intended them to be in their personal relationships with Him that overflow into their daily lives.

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